Everybody around you and I want to be happy. When asked what kind of life do you want? Many people say a happy one. And why not! But how do we attain that happiness in our lives… is a very common question that comes my way.

In the words of Mahatma Gandhi, “Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do is in harmony.”

All of us need to understand that, Happiness is a choice, our own choice on how we wish to live our life and spend each day of our lives. Well, for most of us we chase happiness, create perfect situations to be happy or wait for the right wheels to turn just at the right time. It is easy to be happy or joyous when everything around is perfect or when everything but it chokes to try to be happy when things are just the opposite. Whether we believe it or not, we are in charge of our own happiness even in the darkest days.


Sure you will be happy if you become a millionaire overnight by winning a lottery with abundance of money or being successful in the desired career or having a life partner you love. Now, what if these elements are not a part of your life. Pop**… there bursts your happiness bubble. And in the end all you are left with is only yourself to count on and to create your own happiness.

Of course, there is happiness or a feeling of joy in receiving gifts, when a baby is born, when you are appreciated by your boss. It is easy to be happy when you have all things bright and beautiful around you, but happiness is about choosing to see the adventure in every moment. It is all about choosing to understand that there will always be light after the dark, that there is always good in every situation and every person, no matter how grim the situation is. Happiness doesn’t just happen overnight, it is you who has to choose to create it for yourself.

We are solely responsible for how happy we are or can be. Realising that we are in charge of our happiness is not easy. Always remember that you are the one who rules the roost. Life will throw a lot of challenges, obstacles in your life that will surely change your standpoint on happiness. There will be times in your life when it would seem impossible to find happiness or joy around. When everything around you might just turn upside-down or ugly the last thing you would want to hear is that happiness in your hands. Now, being able to find the only spark of light in these challenges of life is learning that happiness indeed is a possible option.

Well, the good news is that happiness is still a choice. Yet we choose to live an unhappy life, at the mercy of our emotions, all the events happening in our lives. This is quite miserable when we can choose to live a happy life, be a happy person, whatever the circumstances are, the choice is ours. It is never going to be easy to choose happiness over other situational emotions in life. But practising it and putting an effort to change your own perception of situations can be helpful to live a happy life.

As a life coach, I have dealt, talked and travelled around the world for my work. With so much experience up my sleeve you would be thinking that I just leap out of my bed every morning after a peaceful sleep with a grin on my face always and great zeal. Well, the truth is, not really! Like all of us, I am also not happy all the time but I do realise that for me happiness is my own choice rather than submitting to my natural state of being. For me happiness is not something without negative feelings, but focusing on the positive happy aspect. I’ve managed to boost my happiness quotient because over time and consistent practise ‘I’ve made the choice to be happy, even when my life circumstances and situation were telling me otherwise.’

For instance, if you’re in an unhappy relationship it is your choice to change it and or you could choose to get out of a toxic relationship. If you hate your job it is you can make a choice to change it. Happiness is an emotion and choosing this emotion over others is in our own hands. Our family, friends, partners or our colleagues don’t get to call the shots. These people can be just spectators cheering for us sitting in the stadium seating as our happiness squad. But, the real game of being happy and knowing that happiness is a possible option at any given point of time in a human’s life is in our own hands. Happiness is not something that we can acquire or capture through the affirmation or actions of others. It is not an easy choice all the time, but Always remember…Happiness is up to you. Your choice. Your way.

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